I must confess that today will be a scary day for our son.

As you read this it’s likely that my 4-year-old boy and I are waiting for our place in surgery.

Nil by mouth isn’t fun for anyone, especially a boy who likes to graze ALL DAY LONG.

However, I’m sure he and I will tough it out.

I’ll look in to his big blue eyes and offer him the reassurance he needs.

But I must confess, I’m a wee bit scared of the unknown right now :(.

Our gorgeous boy just one week ago - not knowing what was ahead of him!

Our gorgeous boy just one week ago – not knowing what was ahead of him!

The Husband and I made the decision NOT to tell him or siblings about his two-hour kidney surgery and the subsequent four-day hospital stay he’ll have to endure, until the day before he was to have it.

We didn’t make this decision lightly. We asked, we researched, and we looked in our hearts.

What we realised is that there would be no benefit for him if he knew what horrific pain was ahead of him.

Why make a child suffer unnecessarily?

A thoughtful moment

A thoughtful moment

So if you have any spare karma, angels floating around, or whatever, please send them our son’s way for a complication-free operation.

We’ll see you on the flip side.

Oh and one more thing – I want to say that I’m so GRATEFUL that our boy is so healthy, I know there are many gorgeous children out there doing it way worse.

So to those parents, grandparents and siblings going through much worse, you have a part of my heart right now.

Em xx

Thanks for sharing and caring:

Kirsty @ My Home Truths for I Must Confess.


Alicia over at One Mother Hen for Open Slather Monday



  1. Thinking of your gorgeous little man today hon & wishing him a speedy recovery. Sending much love from Melbourne xxx

  2. Thinking of you and beautiful boy. Stay strong sweetie. Sending love, hugs and prayers your way xx

  3. Sending prayers your way!

  4. Our boy had to have a bi-lateral PUJ repair – in real-speak that means he had to have the tube connecting his kidneys to his bladder reconstructed – on both sides, so I know mama, I know.

    The fear (paralytic if you think about it too much), the agonising empathy for what your flesh and blood is about to experience and the doubt. That little seed that even although the best surgeon in the world is in charge of your boy, that nagging little what if? still raises it’s head, no matter how many times you beat it down.

    I get it. And he will be fine. He is in the right place and in the safest hands. You can do no more and you have a whole ‘tribe’ there with you in spirit.

    Kia Kaha Mama Bear.


  5. Ahh what a tough decision for you both. Sending much love and luck to you and your family today xx

  6. Sending the absolute best of wishes your way! xx

  7. Angels and Karma have been dispatched. They should be with you know

  8. Thinking of you mama, we don’t tell Sades until very soon beforehand either as I figure why make her worry any longer than she needs to.
    Sending lots of love your way xx

  9. Thinking of you all. x

  10. I hope all goes well and he recovers well. Don’t worry too much I am sure all will be well.

  11. Thinking of you all! xxxx

  12. I was freaking out when my middle boy had just had to have dental work done in hospital last year so I can imagine what you must be going through. However, I’m sure he’s in very good hands and all will be well. Thinking of you and sending positive vibes. xoxo

  13. Sending lots of love and positive thoughts your way!

  14. Virtual big hugs for you and the family, I guess everyone will probably be nervous and worried. I hope all goes well and he’s on the mend quickly for the better xx

  15. Praying for you and your family, and that your boy will come through A-OK. xxx

  16. Michelle DArcey says:

    Love and thought to you and yours. May your little Prince bounce back in no time. Prayers are being said for you guys today.

  17. Thinking and praying for your son Em. Hope he recovers quickly.

  18. Thinking of you all and sending lots of love xx

  19. Wow Emily. Big Day for your family. All thoughts and prayers are with you today xxxxx

  20. Thinking of you all this morning xx

  21. All the best Em – you made the best decision as worry is never worth it – sending you hugs and hoping you are not worrying too much..kathy

  22. Michelle Holland says:

    Hope it goes well Em. Thinking of you both xx

  23. Scary, scary stuff – as a parent this is what makes you really shit your pants and there is no shame in that whatsoever, its what makes us human.
    Know in your heart everything will be okay, I look forward to hearing the happy news on the flipside xx

  24. Sending all of our positive energy your way. x

  25. Holy Shit Em! I am so sorry your cherub has to go through this. Such a difficult thing to manage being a strong and brave parent while you’re secretly panicking inside. For what it is worth, I think you made the right decision to only tell the children the day before, no need to make them worry more than is necessary. I hope all has gone well. Much love and many blessings coming for you all xxxx

  26. Sending big love & wishes for a quick recovery! I can’t imagine how hard this must be for all of you. xx

  27. been following you today on IG so i know it went ok. I’ll have a glass of wine for you tonight i know you sure could use it xxx lets hope for a speed recovery x

  28. Sending love. I hope that the next 4 days go by quickly and he isn’t in too much pain xx

  29. Oh huni I am sending sooooo much love to you and your beautiful boy that everything is smooth sailing and soon this is all behind you. Lots and lots of love Em xx

  30. hoping that everything went well today xx

  31. I’ve been thinking about you all day. Hope things are going well.

  32. Oh, I was thinking about you all yesterday and following via fb. Hoping he wakes up in not too much pain today and that you guys can go home in 4 days as planned. It’s never fun to be in hospital, hoping your other two cherubs cope with the upheaval in routine too x

  33. Sending love and healing vibes your way. Big love to all of you. xx

  34. Such a scary time. I hope recovery is super fast for your little love bug x

  35. So glad surgery went well Em. x

  36. I’m a bit late to comment, sorry, I am still thinking of you guys and sending you lots of love. xoxo


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