Put your hand up if someone has recently told you how ‘lucky’ you are?
Keep those puppies up if they said this because you just won $1000 in the lotto or you scored an obligation-free trip overseas.
I see no hands raised.
As of now I’m declaring war on the misuse of the word lucky because there’s very few instances that it’s okay to tell someone they are such.
The other day I was called lucky because I was kid-free for the day – but luck wasn’t involved, this was no random win. I book my kids in to daycare so I can work from home without having to play trains/diggers/tow trucks.
I’m also regularly told how lucky I am to have such a helpful husband who actually does his share of the cooking and parenting. Again not lucky, it’s called being married to a woman who believes everyone has to pull their own weight.
Just writing this is getting me all hot and bothered under the collar because as far as I’m concerned there is no such thing as luck. It’s a load of bullshit.
I believe in karma, hard work, determination, opportunity, persistence and planning ahead and every now and then I believe that risks pay off.
As a handy reference here’s some occasions when it’s fine to tell someone they are lucky and some when it’s not okay!
When it’s okay to call someone lucky:
- They find $20 while running in a random park, this is the universe’s way of rewarding you getting off your arse and exercising.
- A coin gold magically appears on the floor of their car when it’s crazy hair gold coin donation day at school.
- They fall awkwardly at netball because they are dreadfully unco (me) and they don’t sprain their ankle for the 4th time.
- They win a prize in a game of chance.
- They look like sex bombs with both blonde and brunette hair – (I have paraphrased but thanks Kirsten for saying so).
- Anything that flies shits on them, sorry but kids shitting on them isn’t good luck it’s disgusting.
- Someone’s husband always cooks dinner because he likes it and wants to.
- They win a trip overseas and only took one raffle ticket.
- Their kid sleeps through their night and they haven’t made a conscious effort to make that happen.
When it’s not find to tell someone they are lucky:
- They work from home.
- They work out of the home.
- They work both in and out of the home.
- Their husband folds the washing, changes nappies, baths the kids, read to his kids, takes the kids to the park by himself.
- They get to go to the gym in the morning alone.
- They are in fabulous shape and extremely fit.
- They get to go away for three days without their kids.
- They have a free weekend away.
- They are doing what they love in life.
And the reason it’s not okay to say the above things to someone is because it’s good management, sacrifice and their expert juggling skills that allow them to do such things, not good luck.
I’m a lot more mindful about when I tell someone they are lucky, because it can actually be insulting to tell someone who has made a huge sacrifice that they have only got where they are because of luck.
Luck – it’s just another four-letter word as far as I’m concerned.