Just between you and me there are days when I am completely over being told how I can improve myself and my parenting skills.
Most mornings I wade through dozens of amazing ideas on how to get more ‘me’ time, why I should start running and why I should cook or clean a certain way.
But do you know what very few people tell me?
That what I’m doing right now is enough.
That what I cook will do.
That having a messy house isn’t the end of the world.
That despite the fact that life as a parent can be so bloody hard and heartbreaking that every day I successfully get through is a massive win.
Today I want to be that person that tells you that you’re doing an AMAZING job despite the fact you think you could be doing more!
I want you to know that comparison is not only the thief of joy but it can also bring out the worst in you.
It may make you bitter, unhappy and put undue pressure on yourself.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t feel free to take on board all of the great advice out there but I’m imploring you to please not feel disheartened if you can’t quite get there yet.
Just be kind to YOU because YOU are the only one living your life.
I posted a photo of my messy kitchen bench on Facebook last night and it made dozens of mums feel so happy to know they weren’t the only ones facing this battle.
Deep down we all love knowing that other people are just as messy as we are behind closed doors!
The only problem is that many mums don’t want to admit they aren’t Martha bloody Stewart for fear of being seen as a failure.
I’m not advocating a life of sloth, in fact I do prefer a tidy house and a clear bench top but there are days when there are bigger fish to fry.
Some days falling in to bed with a sink full of dishes or a washing basket overflowing with clothes isn’t the end of the world.
I want to tell you that you are not alone if:
You have been dressing the kids from the two loads of unfolded washing in the spare room/laundry for the past three days.
You still haven’t cleaned up the annoying cereal spillage from yesterday.
You had to wade through toys on the floor to kiss your kids goodnight.
You accidentally swore around your child today but covered it up by saying fudge-a-roony a few times afterwards to throw them off the scent!
You feel completely overwhelmed at all the boring household shit you should do but can’t be bothered doing so you jump on the computer instead.
You haven’t done your 30 minutes of exercise today.
Having a messy house is not indicative of your parenting skills, it doesn’t mean you’re less of a mum.
Just like not loving to run* doesn’t make you a lazy person.
It probably means you’re ridiculously tired, have chosen to pick your battles and that spending an hour cleaning and tidying while the kids are in bed is NOT a high priority for you.
Please be kind to you, don’t compare yourself to others and remember that everyone has a messy kitchen, bathroom or laundry at some stage.
Despite what you might believe you are not alone in this crazy but amazing parenting world we now find ourselves living in!
Have you got a messy part of the house you want to share?
What is driving you batty right now?
*no offence to all of you crazy suckers that love to pound the pavement – respect!